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Dealing with Uncertainty-How to Deal with Tough Situations While Your Kids Are Watching

I’ll be honest with you. I didn’t want to even bring up the coronavirus on my blog. I didn’t want to have my blog feed into the noise that was already feeding the waves of information people were being hammered with since I am not an expert on diseases. And, I thought that things would click along at a normal pace. But, as closures started occurring, I saw people getting more anxious and frightened online.

So, Why Am I Talking About It?

With my blog, I always have tried to be a light for my readers. I know that this may be a frightening time for people. Closures of schools, theme parks, major sports…this all can seem frightening. I hope that I can help you laugh through it and give you some sane advice.

And, now we are also forced to isolate ourselves. When we need people the most to talk with, to calm and ease our fears and to keep us busy when our thoughts go “south”.

“The world is not falling apart. Although, sometimes it may seem that way.”
― A.Y. Greyson

You probably have been watching the news. Maybe a lot. Maybe too much? It can be addicting to watch it with constant “late-breaking” updates that are constantly entering your brain. And, your stress hormones can kick in-causing dopamine and adrenalin to kick in. The feeling of dopamine and adrenalin, well, it can feel good too-even though watching the news can make you disgusted. That seems so intensely scary, right? This is obviously a very simplistic explanation of what could happen. But, there are much better ways of releasing adrenalin and dopamine that are healthier!

So, turn off the TV. Or, set a time limit. Only get your news online.

Herd mentality-Have you heard of it? Well, if you have seen the toilet paper craze around the globe, congratulations you have witnessed it. That is the herd mentality. It’s a psychological phenomenon that occurs when a lot of people go and do something and everyone else joins in. Not because it seems like a sane or logical thing to do, but because everyone else is doing it. Unfortunately, too much news has ended up with herd mentality. Herd=cows. Don’t be a cow!

Talk with your kids.

You might think I am crazy, especially if they are little. But, they can sense what is going on. My kids hear other people talking. Your kids might have been at a store with you and have asked “why are the shelves empty” or “Why are people acting weird?”

Talk with them. But, make sure you are in a calm state.

Let your child ask questions. This is so important.

If they are small (under 7) don’t go into too much detail. Let them guide your chat. If they walk away, consider the conversation over. Your child might come up with more questions later.

In Your Community & Stores

I know this should go without being said, but when I went to Walmart last night for pick up, it might need to be reiterated. Be kind to the staff at the stores. They are dealing with insane situations. Not only are stores being ravaged, but customers are being savage. Wherever you go, make sure you see the staff person as a whole person. One with a family that cares about them, wants them to be safe and likes their job. Give them compliments. Find something good to say about them to encourage them. A little can go a long way. Chat with people in line to get coffee. Put down your phone and talk. It will be ok!

Leaders in your community are trying their best, and are human too. You may not like them. You may not have elected them (I won’t go into politics), but they too have families and care about others. Grace is needed for people right now.

If you need to go into social isolation

Call people. Stop being only online! Pick up the phone and make contact. If your kids are little, do a Facetime, Zoom, Skype or some other interaction. That will help others feel not so far away or isolated.

Finding Joy in Change

“Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it.”
― Confucious

Your plans probably have changed. Ours have definitely changed! I wish that we could go on with what fun things we had planned, but life has a funny way of doing its own thing. Whether you believe in something bigger than yourself or not, fighting to get back to what was won’t work. It will be futile.

So, how do you deal with today? How do you deal with tomorrow? That might have your anxiety levels blazing.

“Nothing is so painful to the human mind as a great and sudden change.”
― Mary Wollstonecraft Shelley, Frankenstein

One step at a time.

“Even the most prolific writer writes only one word at a time.”
― Mokokoma Mokhonoana

Those projects around the house? Get them done. Reading to your kids or those games that you haven’t played! Do it! I’m sure there are plenty of things you can do at home and enjoy.

What gives me the audacity to write about how to deal with tough times?

I do have the audacity, don’t I?

In 2009, I was pregnant with Munchie and contracted h1n1. 280 Pregnant Women in the United States were admitted to the ICU, and I was one of them. 56 of those women died. Obviously, I was not one of them.

In 2018 I had a brain infection that caused epileptic seizures. What that brain infection was, we are uncertain. I found out that I also have Sjorgen’s (an autoimmune disease). So, I am highly susceptible to lots of colds. I also have a low blood count always. And, I’m hypothyroid since birth.

Basically, I’m a fun girl to be around!

My father also has Multiple Sclerosis, which is also an auto-immune disease.

I know that there is a lot of worries, and a lot of concern. But, there is so much life to be lived as well!

This too shall pass. Our kids will have some interesting memories as will we. But, how we approach the next few weeks and how we interact with each other throughout this time will have a lifetime of impact for our children and future generations.

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